Some useful podcasts that I found
Journey to failure to understand getting up matters..

Experience the failure to see success..
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One day I got a call from his school teacher just after the school time.. anxiously I picked up the call.. the teacher told me to ask him what happened at school today after he comes home..
I asked him after he refreshed about day at school and he was not comfortable.. after a hug he told me, “amma today in language test I went blank and did not know what to write for a question.. I told the teacher that I will refer to the book just to remember the key word and she said no.. ” I asked him if what he did was right and it’s ok to write an answer wrong or not write an answer but he told me, “how can I ? I know that I know the answer.. I can’t fail.. it will be humiliating to fail.. but the teacher told me to write the test another day with today’s absentees” I told him to prepare well this time and thank the teacher for giving another chance..
As I thought through the happenings I realised he had hardly faced failure even in little things in life.. he just had to try once sometimes with help and sometimes without help to do anything.. he could get most things 75% well without effort.. while most children had to practice to get that.. those kids did face failure at least little by little and learnt to try more.. he never had to try more.. a little effort and his learning was done.. then it struck me that kids learn by watching adults.. did he see us fail? NO! Here I was wearing the super mom tag trying to show how brilliantly I handle so many things.. I never showcased my failure.. It did not help anyone.. my frustrations were also pilling up.. I decided to shed that image.. I started showing him how plan A, B,C.. never worked .. it was plan N or sometimes plan Z that worked and I had to adapt to it.. sometimes none worked.. it helped me to responsibly channelize my frustrations and learnings as I know he is watching and learning.. I let him see that I fall many times but I get up and get going.. I can see the difference.. he tries after initial frustrations now.. and the teacher had been understanding that though he knew , the thought of doing something wrong disturbed him.. he needed that understanding..
For many Gifted I learnt frustration is the major issue.. trying again and again becomes difficult.. because they don’t know what failure is in childhood..
Let me know your thoughts..
Because no one talks for them

Sometimes I wonder about the very tiny population in the world almost less than 5% .. they don’t open their mouth much.. dont share their experiences much.. because the world thinks they have all that is needed so what’s there to even complain or feel drained out about? and what do they have ? kids with high IQ i.e Gifted kids.. IQ that seems to be something that many want their kids to improve some how and reach that spot on top.. but have you ever heard from Einstein’s mother or his wife Maliva Einstein Maric’s mother or Annapurna Devi’s mom or Chanakya’s mother or any renowned genius’s mother, how it was to bring up these people? how mentally exhausting it was? I have deliberately chosen these names as even though they had the common factor of great IQ they had different EQ and SQ.. they were different characters altogether…. how did other adults around them react when these people were kids? how did other kids react when these people were kids? the world looses a majority of benefits we can reep from the ones with higher capabilities because they are snubbed and damaged when they are still kids.. though we celebrate the achievements of these people once they achieve we forget those who could be like them when they are around us as kids.. no, high IQ doesn’t mean high scores in exams! no, high IQ doesn’t mean charming personality! No , high IQ doesn’t mean they will be able to manage any garbage thrown at them wonderfully.. it means that they are mentally growing way too faster than their chronological age.. their capabilities are far higher than what is expected for that age.. their ideas are new, out of the box and sometimes unacceptable.. perfection is a relative term… they strive for perfection that they understand and the world can’t..
the earthworm, cow,mountain goat , crow and eagle get to see the world in totally different perspectives due to the altitude.. that doesn’t mean any of them are lesser or better than the other but they will not be able to understand the perspective of the other.. each one has an ability.. and if that ability is utilised perfectly life can be made beautifully harmonious..
only their mothers know the difficulty in that life.. but the difference with IQ is the mother may not have the same IQ.. she may not have the needed awarness.. she may not understand the other perspective.. we are gaining better awarness about the average and lower IQs but there is very less known about the higher..it makes life for that child very difficult.. the life of that mother difficult.. even if the mother is able to understand and helps the child she is at odds with the world around.. she keeps mum because she doesn’t know if her child will achieve anything big for others to atleast keep their opinions to themselves.. she keeps mum because she will be called a show off and her problems will be labelled as attention seeking.. how many child prodigies had mental issues in later stage.. how many child prodigies parents hid their child’s abilities due to fear.. very few were lucky.. these kids remain a misfit and struggle..
How many parents fight with schools when some children are given more to study, we have them among us right? even if the teachers understand that , the child needs more we get infuriated.. if the class proceeds a little slow for one child who is not able to catch up or if a child needs support class to catch up , we are kind of okay with the idea.. but not the other way around.. why? because our ego hurts?
a classic example from times just gone by.. Mr. CR .. theater, politics, law , movies, journalism… O my God! to learn about him you need a lifetime.. effortlessly brilliant.. there is a new hidden meaning to discover in his works every single time.. multi talented.. but many of us hate him because we don’t understand what he was saying.. he never got what was due..do you think the adults wouldn’t have been offended by his knowledge when he was a child? how difficult it would have been for his mom to catch up with life? she would have silently borne a lot.. he had strange habits and was extremely stubborn.. his anger was not understood.. how did his mother manage? she may not have spoken her heart out to anyone as no one would have understood.. we do know Edison’s mom had to face a lot from the society but we just paint the picture that a mother always has to and wind it up.. the emotional needs of these kids and their parents need to be understood too.. isn’t bringing up a child who is aging mentally faster an altogether different challenge?
just think over it..
Let’s understand the gifted better..
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Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton
