Pandemic and uncertainty

While others are trying their best to keep kids at home due to the pandemic, I have made no efforts.. as there is no need of it! They have not played outside the house or met friends or fought to go out.. it is me and husband who are trying to send them for a walk early morning (mine are early wakers) when no one is around.. they fear everyone now.. we have hardly met anyone since March end.. there have been days of intense melt down begging us ‘not to die and let them suffer alone’.. they take time to accept change..

Logic did not work.. Making them drink all traditional immunity boosters did not change mind-set.. agitation, crying for no reason and sad faces staring into oblivion became regular … Peace seemed totally lost..

Games and stories and art did some amount of magic.. I cooked up stories about imaginary characters who survived pandemics that affected the world in the past.. asked them to do the same.. we tried making funny endings..

Like the old partially blind lady who made some magic concoction accidentally and became rich as it treated the illness and so on..

Then we often draw and paint the changes we see and expect to see in the world as the effect of pandemic.. my older one calls himself a solo wanderer and he painted himself reading a book under tree in solitude happily.. younger one has been drawing green parks and happy roads..

Necessity is the mother of all.. more so for a mother..

Part 3- Big B -the very reason to start the blog

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Learnings from his life..

When the child has high intelligence and capacity the child’s interests and attention is focused on the subject that they love.. everything else is trivial to the child.. if we can’t understand the intensity of the passion towards learning more we should atleast not give a negative energy..

1.be extremely forgiving as they need that trusted shoulder when they are up against a world that considers them a misfit..

2.be a guide and show them more outlets for the simmering emotions ..

3.throw several ropes from various areas of interests and they will catch hold of what they need and climb up by themselves..

4. Lower down your expectations

5. Developing a spiritual and friendly relationship with God is good for overall mental health.

6. Our education system doesn’t have enough variety to Carter to the variety of students.. the system and teachers need updation .. teachers have to know more about psychology of children and have to handle their needs appropriately

Part 2- Big B -the very reason to start the blog

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A post by him on social media years back just popped up on my page.. drew me into good and bad memories..

Big B was the big brother from another womb.. my neighbour in childhood.. he always amazed me with his abilities.. I would see him jaw dropped through the day.. he could fix phones to cars even as a kid in 1990s when computers were just making an entry into India.. he built an audio editing system from scratch at home as a teenager.. but his teachers did not find him interesting.. he was called a looser, mad kid and treated badly by teachers at school.. he had let all the emotions simmer inside without telling his parents’ too.. he was kicked out of a prestigious school and it impacted his mental health.. the pressure was building without anyone’s knowledge..he was home schooled but he was still a difficult kid to handle for many.. I never understood why but now I know why.. with many struggles and limited friends he completed his 12 the grade.. but he was already an inventor by then.. he was an extremely caring neighbour and brother to me and my brother who were mostly alone when my parents went out to work.. he introduced me to books.. he would help me with my projects that involved computers.. he would always keep a watch on us.. he was leading the graphics team of a famous media company and did graphics for TV and films.. his abilities were recognised and he went on to study in the USA.. great names came calling but his health had taken a beating.. He came back home when he knew that he was suffering from an auto immunity disorder with no cure and had just 5 more years to live though he was just in his 20s.. even with health issues he went on to innovate with his trade mark smile and wit.. he bet his odds both mentally and physically to live for 7 more years.. I was not aware of the magnitude of his illness and we were continuing our friendship on social media.. when I had my second child he wanted to meet me.. but good things come to an end and his life ended prematurely.. I feel guilty to this day for not meeting him before he died..

His life had a lesson for everyone involved in it.. the world understands those with average and below average IQ better than those with high IQs.. do we give the intellectually superior the needed understanding? How many times we have branded them as egoistic and proud? Are we as a society accomodating them ? Or are we expecting them to accomodate themselves to us from the beginning? Are we understanding them emotionally?

I think I can pay back to him only if I bring up my kids, understanding the critical aspects than the popular aspects.. whenever my older one shows me little inventions of his, I am reminded of only one face.. when ever I see him struggle emotionally because the society doesn’t understand I get the very same memories.. I will share the lessons from his life with everyone.. because people like these can make the world a better place if only we accept and understand them..

Part 1- Big B -the very reason to start the blog

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He ran multiple businesses including short film making, collaborating with dancers to create A/V storytelling, vendor for audio and visual equipments ( wholesaler for LG audio video products), sole vendor / servicer for battery cars (client TCS), Chennai cultural academy secretary, Founder of gurudhawani ( organization to teach performing arts over internet, started planning activities for constructing a world class auditorium cum shopping complex that will sustain itself and nurture artist with the proceeds from activities of the complex itself.. to name a few.. He came with innovative ideas to solve problems that faced him until his death bed.. for his shoot when he needed a railed platform, instead of spending lakhs of rupees to get the platform from market created one himself with garden hose, skater wheels and wooden plank. When a huge corporation (tcs) spent crores of rupees to construct a stadium in their premise they found out that acoustically the arena was very bad and could not hold events.. professional architects and sound engineers proposed repairs for another crore + money.. he instead suspended the speakers on kevlar threads from the truss above to the right spot to get rid of the echoes.. cost was few thousands..

He founded a company in NY with his brother… created lifestyle products which are revolutionary even in todays standards.. many of them yet to come to market even by the like of Apple (on his digital distribution of digitised products), mattel to y maker (for his innovation of bringing video game like activity to the physical world for kids), water fountain installations that will give 3d reproduction of anybody’s face when they look at the camera using water fountain.. the list goes on and all before he was even 35.. his friends used to call him Einstein..

But what happened to such an innovator, creator and an exemplary embodiment of genius ? Read in the next part..

Because no one talks for them

Sometimes I wonder about the very tiny population in the world almost less than 5% .. they don’t open their mouth much.. dont share their experiences much.. because the world thinks they have all that is needed so what’s there to even complain or feel drained out about? and what do they have ? kids with high IQ i.e Gifted kids.. IQ that seems to be something that many want their kids to improve some how and reach that spot on top.. but have you ever heard from Einstein’s mother or his wife Maliva Einstein Maric’s mother or Annapurna Devi’s mom or Chanakya’s mother or any renowned genius’s mother, how it was to bring up these people? how mentally exhausting it was? I have deliberately chosen these names as even though they had the common factor of great IQ they had different EQ and SQ.. they were different characters altogether…. how did other adults around them react when these people were kids? how did other kids react when these people were kids? the world looses a majority of benefits we can reep from the ones with higher capabilities because they are snubbed and damaged when they are still kids.. though we celebrate the achievements of these people once they achieve we forget those who could be like them when they are around us as kids.. no, high IQ doesn’t mean high scores in exams! no, high IQ doesn’t mean charming personality! No , high IQ doesn’t mean they will be able to manage any garbage thrown at them wonderfully.. it means that they are mentally growing way too faster than their chronological age.. their capabilities are far higher than what is expected for that age.. their ideas are new, out of the box and sometimes unacceptable.. perfection is a relative term… they strive for perfection that they understand and the world can’t..
the earthworm, cow,mountain goat , crow and eagle get to see the world in totally different perspectives due to the altitude.. that doesn’t mean any of them are lesser or better than the other but they will not be able to understand the perspective of the other.. each one has an ability.. and if that ability is utilised perfectly life can be made beautifully harmonious..
only their mothers know the difficulty in that life.. but the difference with IQ is the mother may not have the same IQ.. she may not have the needed awarness.. she may not understand the other perspective.. we are gaining better awarness about the average and lower IQs but there is very less known about the higher..it makes life for that child very difficult.. the life of that mother difficult.. even if the mother is able to understand and helps the child she is at odds with the world around.. she keeps mum because she doesn’t know if her child will achieve anything big for others to atleast keep their opinions to themselves.. she keeps mum because she will be called a show off and her problems will be labelled as attention seeking.. how many child prodigies had mental issues in later stage.. how many child prodigies parents hid their child’s abilities due to fear.. very few were lucky.. these kids remain a misfit and struggle..
How many parents fight with schools when some children are given more to study, we have them among us right? even if the teachers understand that , the child needs more we get infuriated.. if the class proceeds a little slow for one child who is not able to catch up or if a child needs support class to catch up , we are kind of okay with the idea.. but not the other way around.. why? because our ego hurts?
a classic example from times just gone by.. Mr. CR .. theater, politics, law , movies, journalism… O my God! to learn about him you need a lifetime.. effortlessly brilliant.. there is a new hidden meaning to discover in his works every single time.. multi talented.. but many of us hate him because we don’t understand what he was saying.. he never got what was due..do you think the adults wouldn’t have been offended by his knowledge when he was a child? how difficult it would have been for his mom to catch up with life? she would have silently borne a lot.. he had strange habits and was extremely stubborn.. his anger was not understood.. how did his mother manage? she may not have spoken her heart out to anyone as no one would have understood.. we do know Edison’s mom had to face a lot from the society but we just paint the picture that a mother always has to and wind it up.. the emotional needs of these kids and their parents need to be understood too.. isn’t bringing up a child who is aging mentally faster an altogether different challenge?
just think over it..